After watching my parents’ marriage disintegrate and living with the never-ending effects of divorce, I decided I never wanted to marry. God had a different plan for me. He brought Stephen into my life, and together they spent three and a half years convincing me to marry—while I begged and dared God to show me how a marriage could actually work, without the two parties involved killing, or otherwise, maiming each other.


And, boy, did I bring baggage to my marriage! (My husband and I both did) Everything from wounds from childhood trauma, to bad habits, to stupid ideas, to blatant ignorance. You name it, we’ve probably faced it.


If God has ever taken valium, needed a coffee break, or even briefly considered retirement, I am probably the reason. I am relentless. I will not leave Him alone about growing me spiritually, changing the way I think, behave, and handle my portion of my marriage. I’m worse than the kid who asks Why? I must also know How?, When?, and What exactly does that look like?


My favorite verse is Isaiah 1:18-19. Whoops, that’s two. Shellie’s paraphrase is ‘God will talk to me about anything—my sin, my confusion, my ignorance—when I approach Him with a willingness to change and be obedient in the future.’ I love knowing God isn’t offended by my questions, that He’s ready and willing to answer them.


Anyway, I love having the opportunity to share with you. And if something here blesses you, pass it along to your friends and please let me know! I’m living proof that with God’s help, anyone can Live Happily Even After.