Chances are, if you’ve heard more than one sermon on finances, you’ve heard reference to this scripture from Galatians 6:7, often referred to as “The Law of Sowing and Reaping.” The ESV says it this way: “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.”
I don’t believe this scripture is isolated to money. I believe it’s greatest usage is for relationships, namely marriages.
And it’s reflexive! Which is fantastic!
What exactly do I mean when I say it’s reflexive? I mean it’s true both ways.
Yes, you will reap what is sown. And, you can figure out what you sowed by looking at what you are currently reaping, which is great news for marriages.
Is any area of your marriage a mess? According to the truth of this scripture you can look back, figure out what you planted, and you’ll understand why you have the mess you have.
Which means, if you stop planting those things, the strife will die out. Fabulous news, right?
Is effective communication non-existent between you and your mate? Have you sown silence? Judgment? Sharp retorts? An un-listening ear?
Do you and your mate live as roommates rather than as best friends and lovers? Have you sown inattention? Passivity? Laziness?
Is your house more like a battlefield than a home? Have you drawn lines around your personal territory and space? Do you verbally attack your mate? Have you refused to change, grow, love, or give?
I’ve often marveled at people who pray, asking God to change their circumstances when their circumstances are their own making. I need God to give me a better job—but they refuse to learn new tasks. I need God to heal my marriage—but they won’t say one nice thing about their spouse and refuse to change themselves.
Think of it this way: Your marriage is like a garden. It will do no good to plant turnips and pray for tomatoes.
If you’re reaping turnips, figure out when, where, and how you planted them! Then plant tomatoes instead, and enjoy them.
Your marriage can be a fulfilling example of love and loving. Ask God to help you analyze what you’re reaping, so you can sow better from now on.