Frequently Asked Questions

 

Q: Are you a counselor? A therapist or clinician?

 

A: No, I am not. I simply want to share what I’ve learned.

 

Q: Why do you want to share what you’ve learned?

 

A: Because I experienced divorce from the kid’s side (my parents divorced when I was teenager) and I know that pain. I want to help families avoid that pain.

 

Q: Everything you share about marriage—did you know it all when you got married?

 

A: (Laughing) No … my husband and I both brought tremendous baggage to our marriage, baggage neither of us recognized or knew what to do with.

 

Q: What does Live Happily Even After mean?

 

A: Live Happily Even After means no matter what you brought to your marriage, no matter the current condition of your marriage, or what you’ve done since getting married, you don’t have to let your past define you or determine your future. Anyone can choose to change for the better, whether that means changing behavior, or receiving forgiveness, or emotional healing. God is always there, ready to start where you are.

 

Q: Do you really believe there’s hope for any marriage?

 

A: Yes! I really do believe that. Certainly, every person makes his/her own decisions. But if both parties listen to God, there’s no reason healing, redemption, and restoration can’t take place.

 

Q: What if I want to work on my marriage but my spouse doesn’t?

 

A: Investments in your relationship with God and your marriage are never wasted. Think about it this way: If you work on your marriage and your spouse begins to do the same, your marriage will indeed get stronger and healthier—but one of you must start. Why not you? Or, if you work on your marriage and your spouse chooses to end the marriage, you will have achieved two things: 1) You will know you did everything possible to heal the relationship, and 2) You will have demonstrated a living testimony (to your children, family, and friends) of how to love someone who chooses not to love you back—which is just like God. He loves many who don’t love Him back.